So Is Life A Series of Painful Disasters?

Not necessarily. The universe is always nudging us with gentle signals. When we ignore the signals, it nudges us with a sledgehammer. Growth is most painful when resist it.

We can react to life in one of three ways. We either say:

"My life is a series of experiences I need, happening in perfect order." 

(The healthiest approach-guarantees maximum peace of mind)

or

"Life is a lottery, but I make the most of whatever comes along".

(The next best option- offers average quality of life)

or

 

·         "Why do bad things always happen to me"?

(Guarantees maximum misery and frustration)

      Life goes like this. We get hit by little pebbles- as a kind of warming. When we ignore the pebbles, we get hit by a brick. Ignore the brick and we get wiped out by a boulder. If we're honest, we can see where we have ignored the warning signs. And then we have the nerve to say, "Why me?"

      Life doesn't always have to be painful- but pain is still the main reason we change. Until we are in pain, we can pretend. Our ego says, "I'm fine."

      It's always easier to be philosophical about other people's pain! We look at Jim and say, "Going broke was a huge learning experience for him." We look at Mary and say, "That divorce helped her to stand on her own feet." We all agree, "Challenges make you stronger."

      But when our own challenges come along, we're not so enthusiastic. We say, "Lord, why this? Give me a convenient challenge!" Unfortunately, real challenges aren't convenient.

      Challenges also come in waves. We know about waves- sound waves, light waves, brain waves, microwaves. In non- scientific terms waves demonstrate that things have a tendency to travel in bunches.

      This means that problems happen in groups; family crises, wedding invitations and car repairs also tend to travel in bunches. Bearing this in mind is helpful. When you strike a month without bills, you say to yourself, I'll put something aside for the next wave." When you get swamped by the next wave, you say to yourself, "I know about these waves- this is only temporary."

Source: Matthews, A. (2009) Happiness in Hard Times, Seashell Publishers, Australia.

 

In reality, we have nothing. What we have is only the thing that given by our parents. They given us new life, and what make our new life more worthwhile? 

The answer is LOVE, life is a journey and love is what makes the journey worthwhile.

"It happened. Life goes on".

"If through sadness you can fix the future, then do it! 
But being sad doesn't fix the future."
Sunrise is still wake up every early morning!

Someone told me that, I wake up every day choosing to be happy. What can possible hurt me now? What can worry me now? 

 Life is like a movie. It's not the length but the quality that matters. 

There is no secret to Happiness. You just choose it.

I Can't Take It Anymore! So, Just Let Tomorrow Take Care Of Itself.

Sometime life is hard. How do you hang on when things seem hopeless? You can only tackle your problems as you would climb a mountain.

      If you go rock climbing and you get stuck on a ledge, you suddenly focus on the present moment! When your life is in danger, you forget about the future. All your effort goes into your next step. Then your next step. Inch by inch. Eventually you claw your way out.

       The same strategy works for everyday life. It is the only strategy when life gets tough. You say, "How can I stay positive when I can't even pay the rent? How do I keep going when I'm grieving, lonely or seriously ill?"

      When the worst happens, you can't worry about the rest of your life. You can't even be worrying about the rest of the month. But you can usually handle one day at a time. And whenever 24 hours is too tough, bite off five minutes at a time. Tackle one problem at a time. Take a step. You get a little confidence...take another step, and another. Eventually you find that the worst is over.

If you were to worry about:

a). everything you need to do in the next month, or

b). everything that could go wrong in the next year, you could go nuts! Focus on the moment.

If you were embarking on a day's march, wouldn't it be foolish to try to carry enough food and water for a lifetime? Is it not strange, then, that many people carry around all their worriers for the next 25 years and wonder why life is so difficult? We were designed to live 24 hours at a time. No more.

Next time you find yourself despairing, ask yourself:

* Have I got enough air to breathe?

* Have I got enough food for today?

* Will I be okay for the next five minutes?

Once you have made it through those five minutes, just aim at getting through the next five. Bite off one small chunk at a time. It saves a lot of indigestion.

All you can do is give your best effort until bedtime.

Let tomorrow take care of itself.

For me, if tough time meets up with me, what I usually do is;

Fit my stomach first. Nothing else. It's extremely effective. 

"As we probably know, No energy, No fight"

My History on 15 Days Conquest of Europe Iterary on 5 Sept 2009

1 Day- London to Amsterdam, Belgium, Belgium Chocolates

2 Days- Amsterdam and Volendam
           * To the picturesque Dutch Fishing / Cheese Village of Volendam
           * Traditional Windmill
           * Amsterdam city center
           * Red Light District

All is about Cheese

4 to 5 years classmates, finally we reached our destination!

My childhood dream come true in 5 Sept 2009.

3 Days- Frankfurt, Frankfurt Airport (the 2nd busiest airport in Europe), Admiring the modern architecture, River main and souvenir shopping around Romen excavation site the Romer.

 

4 Days- Fussen, reach Neuschwanstein castle, built by King Ludwig, this castle is the fairest of all the fairly castle, situated on top of a hill surrounded by mountains and lakes.

Sunset @ 4 to 5 pm

5 Days- Innsbruck to Venice, city of Innsbruck, visit the Golden balcony, the old city gate and shop for SWAROVSKI, crystals and accessories.

6 Days- Venice, short boat ride from campaign, reach the Island of Venice.
*Famous landmarks eg: St Marks Squares and Cathedral, the Doges Palace and Bridges of sighs.
*View from the Bell Tower
*Explore the markets around the Rialto Bridge for souvenirs such as Murano glasses and crystals, venetian mask/ lace.

Venetian Mask

Our Tour guide (Malaysian + UK)

Funny pic, but I love it: )

7 Days-  Florence To Rome

-Panoramic picture of city of Florence on top of the hill of Piazza Michealangelo.
-Enjoy sightseeing like Duome, Uffizzi Gallery, Ponte Vechio.
- Shop for leather goods.
-Golden Ponte Vechio crossing the Arno River Florence.

 

Different courses, Different Character, but same pattern! Funny & Crazy: )

8 Days- Rome
* to explore the city of Rome, the small independent catholic country within Rome.
COLOSSEUM

I Love Rome!

 

 

They are going for dinner party.

9 Days- Rome to Pisa (12 Sept)
* to the people of Pisa, campo di rgiracoli is the most beautiful square in the world.
* see the grandeur or Italian marble used to build The Learning Tower at Pisa, The Baptistery and the cathedral.

I though got Pizza to eat, because I never dream of it.

5 years old classmates in College + University.

 

 

10 Days- To Swiss Alps (Switzerland)
-situated in a valley in between Gigantis snow-cap mountains with waterfalls- Cauterbrunnen.

I though I won't get back home, it's sooo cool: p

 

Our life journey is never end up!

11 Days- Lauterbrunnen & the Swiss Alps
a). Jungfrau Mountain (3454m) to explore the ice-palace.
b). visit the unique Trummelbach falls (10 amazing waterfalls in a cave) or hike the many trails.

Ice- Palace

12 Days- Paris is the Metropolitan city & busy city of Paris.

Paris Tower

13 Days- Paris
* Famous landmarks as the Notre Dame Cathedral, champs Elysees, Ara de Triomphe and Eiffel Tower,
* Evening, go for a romantic river cruise to see Paris by night.

14 Days- Disneyland Paris Option.* Outdoor and studio.

Outdoor act!

Wanna bring back but no money.

15 Days- Paris to London
*Channel Tunnel
*Victoria Station.

London Victoria Station

Night view of London Bridge!

DARE TO DREAM BIG!
 If you dare to step out 1 step. God's said "WELL DONE"