Are you happy with whom, what, or where you are today? Are you having fun? Are you enjoying your career? Are you excited about your future? Are you living your life to the fullest? If the answer is no, then I ask “Why not?”
Most of us are searching for something, or sometimes, in the future when we will finally be happy. We tell ourselves that if we can only get to “that place,” then our lives will be perfect. What we miss when we go through life with this perspective is the joy of today and all the wonderful things that it brings.
So what will it take for you to be happy? Will it be a bigger house, a new car, getting married, getting divorced, becoming pregnant, getting a new job, moving to a new home, etc.? when will you stop running and enjoy what you have today? The search for happiness is internal and impossible to obtain from outside things. Sure, they may make you smile initially, but the emptiness will not go away. So, how can you be happy today?
If you don’t think that you deserve to be happy, then no wonder you are not. The messages you give yourself determine what direction your life will take. If you are telling yourself that you are unworthy or don’t deserve happiness, then how can you expect to be happy? Being happy today is accepting who you are; the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s knowing that you are doing the best you can do, and being content with that. I’m not saying to ignore what you’d like to improve in your life, but if you only see what’s missing, you lose out on “loving” what’s great about you.
Being happy today means being comfortable where you are in the present, not where you would like to be in the future. It’s about being in awe of the opportunity to learn something new each day. You don’t know what your life will bring tomorrow, so you might as well enjoy where you are today. It also means being grateful for your life, whether it’s being grateful for having good health, a job, a place to live, food every day, or a family that loves you. If you knew that you were going to die in 90 days, would you do things differently? Guess what? You are going to die one day, and you don’t know if you even have 90 days. Gratitude, not blame, will give you happiness and freedom.
Being happy means not keeping your problem to yourself. It also means that you should ask for support when you need it, and let others contribute to your life. Most of us don’t ask for help because we don’t want to burden the people around us. But, if someone asked you for assistance, wouldn’t you lend a helping hand? Then why wouldn’t you let others do the same for you?
Being happy today is doing something nice for someone else. This could be as simple as holding the door for the person behind you, or as big as volunteering your time to your favorites charity. Your problem become smaller when you are not always thinking about them. When you take the focus off yourself, it is easier to see how great your life really is.
Being happy is taking steps that will move you forward. Movement keeps you from feeling like a victim. When you’re unhappy, formulating a plan puts you in a different place and helps change your perspective. It also puts the power back in your hand!
So, what is it going to take to have you be happy today? How much more of your life do you want to live to wait for “someday” to bring you the happiness you crave? It’s up to you to create your own happiness. It’s up to you to create a life filled with joy rather than sorrow. Why not choose a life filled with happiness today?
(Source: Adapted from Top- 7- Step- To- Being- Truly- Happy by Deborah Brown )
After I read, I really feel warm and "Bingo" because I have learned something from here. And sometimes, happiness is just there in front of us, but sadly we cannot realize that and cannot see it! WHY? because we always looking for a difficult thing that hard to get it.
Sometimes, I do wonder isn't "things that hard to achieve is Diamond, and things that's easy to get is Rubbish"! or " Things that 's hard to get are treasure able, things that's easy to get go unnoticed"
