So Is Life A Series of Painful Disasters?

Not necessarily. The universe is always nudging us with gentle signals. When we ignore the signals, it nudges us with a sledgehammer. Growth is most painful when resist it.

We can react to life in one of three ways. We either say:

"My life is a series of experiences I need, happening in perfect order." 

(The healthiest approach-guarantees maximum peace of mind)

or

"Life is a lottery, but I make the most of whatever comes along".

(The next best option- offers average quality of life)

or

 

·         "Why do bad things always happen to me"?

(Guarantees maximum misery and frustration)

      Life goes like this. We get hit by little pebbles- as a kind of warming. When we ignore the pebbles, we get hit by a brick. Ignore the brick and we get wiped out by a boulder. If we're honest, we can see where we have ignored the warning signs. And then we have the nerve to say, "Why me?"

      Life doesn't always have to be painful- but pain is still the main reason we change. Until we are in pain, we can pretend. Our ego says, "I'm fine."

      It's always easier to be philosophical about other people's pain! We look at Jim and say, "Going broke was a huge learning experience for him." We look at Mary and say, "That divorce helped her to stand on her own feet." We all agree, "Challenges make you stronger."

      But when our own challenges come along, we're not so enthusiastic. We say, "Lord, why this? Give me a convenient challenge!" Unfortunately, real challenges aren't convenient.

      Challenges also come in waves. We know about waves- sound waves, light waves, brain waves, microwaves. In non- scientific terms waves demonstrate that things have a tendency to travel in bunches.

      This means that problems happen in groups; family crises, wedding invitations and car repairs also tend to travel in bunches. Bearing this in mind is helpful. When you strike a month without bills, you say to yourself, I'll put something aside for the next wave." When you get swamped by the next wave, you say to yourself, "I know about these waves- this is only temporary."

Source: Matthews, A. (2009) Happiness in Hard Times, Seashell Publishers, Australia.

 

In reality, we have nothing. What we have is only the thing that given by our parents. They given us new life, and what make our new life more worthwhile? 

The answer is LOVE, life is a journey and love is what makes the journey worthwhile.